The seed of an idea was planted?

I stated in the first entry on this site that I was fully aware of my husbands background when we got married. What he did in previous relationships was fine, but we were different. I could never do that. I'm an open-minded person, but swinging? Come on. I'm open minded enough to go to a clothing optional beach and walk around naked. I'm open minded enough to vacation at a couples only resort. But swinging? I couldn't even wrap my mind around it. Why would I want to have sex with someone else? My husband and I are in love! So when he gingerly approached the subject about 2 years into our marriage - he went very carefully down that road. So carefully in fact that from the initial mention of swinging to our first experience - it was about a year. He brought up the idea by mentioning that a friend from work had said he and his wife had been swinging about six months and they were having a blast. My response .......... "good for them." Like I said - I didn't make it easy. Apparently the seed of the idea had been planted. I thought a lot about it and I'm not sure at what point my mind finally wrapped itself around the idea, but it eventually did - there will be more on that later...................... The question to be answered here is how long did it take you to go from "idea" to actually swinging?

And the "Subject" came up ...................

Most couples don't just fall into the lifestyle. They make a decision that this is what they want to do or try. That is unless a lot of alcohol is involved and you wake up one morning with a bunch of your friends naked. I'm really not referring to that situation. In that one, I can't give you any advice (except you may want to reconsider your level of alcohol consumption) All couples who participate in the lifestyle, at some point decided that they wanted to try swinging. Which means that at some point the subject came up. I have met a few couples whom say that the idea was the womans. A greater number of the couples admit that the man is the one who initially brought the idea up. One thing I find - no matter who brought up the subject - the majority of the time once they are in the lifestyle, the woman spearheads it after that. Who they swing with, how often etc. Check back soon and I will have the story of how the subject came up with us.................................................. Who brought up the idea in your relationship?

A Little Background ............

I thought it would be helpful if I posted a little background on how my husband and I became involved in the swinging universe. Or you may hear it referred to as the "lifestyle". My husband and I have been together six years and married for four. I knew when we got married, that my husband had been a swinger, but I never really considered the idea that we would explore it together. After all, I was from the midwest, the bible belt - when you get married, that's it - you are now in a monogamous relationship (for better or worse). It's not uncommon for couples from the bible belt to go to the wedding bed as virgins and never experience another sexual partner. This is not my first marriage, so obviously I was not going to the wedding bed a virgin, but I was perfectly ok with the idea of monogamy. In fact the idea of swinging was unthinkable. How would it ever be possible to just casually have sex with another couple? It wasn't something I could wrap my brain around and so it was for two years into our marriage ....................... Care to share your background?

SugarAndSassie

A little about me and this blog. First of all SugarAndSassie is a nickname which I decided to use as my reference name for this blog. Where I come from, you don't exactly tell your next door neighbor that you and your husband enjoy swinging. Now, setting up a blog is the last thing I ever thought I would find myself doing, but my husband suggested it one night on our way home from a party. I was talking about a couple of women I had met at the party who were still very confused about swinging and whether or not they had gotten in over their heads. One of them wanted a way to discuss her questions anonymously. My husband said a blog would be the perfect forum. Thus Swinging101 was born. I invite anyone to post questions and their thoughts to others questions. I only ask that everyone be respectful to the other people using the blog. I hope this turns out to be a positive thing.